“As bad as you are, you know how to give good things to your children, How much more, then, will the Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”-Luke 11:13
“But a woman will be saved through having children, if she preservers in faith and love and holiness, with modesty.”-1 Timothy 2:15
Eating Healthy and Taking Care of Their Bodies
We took a more untraditional route when we started SJ on solid food. We did what’s called Baby Led Weaning (compared to Traditional Weaning which is purees and spoon feeding). To say we got a little pushback from family is an understatement. But I am a researcher. Part of being a “millennial” I guess you could say. I looked at pros and cons of both ways and we decided this was the best way to go for in the long run. We loved it. SJ loved it. And for the time being, she eats pretty much anything. Including healthy foods. But this is just the beginning.
Even though she is a year and a half old, I try to show her positive body image. I don’t ever want my girls to feel how I felt about my own body when I definitely shouldn’t have. I intend to teach them to eat healthy, but to love themselves. That your body size is not always an indicator of your health. And to do that, I have to lead by example. But I know that I am going to fail sometimes. Some days she gets chicken nuggets with Mac and cheese for lunch. Some days I look in the mirror and really wish I could just get rid of that little extra weight or be as toned as I used to be . But, by raising them with the intent to eat healthy and take care of their bodies, doesn’t mean I am going to succeed 100% of the time. I can only look to that intention as a guide.
How to Use Their Imagination
As I said earlier, I have always wanted to be a mom and a wife. Which means my all time favorite thing to do as a little girl was play house! I loved it. I loved pretend play. Most of my memories as a child involve some type of make believe and I want that for my daughters. I try to play with SJ as often as I can with her blocks, sensory bin, dolls, and really any other type of toy that doesn’t involve the TV.
I try to avoid toys that are battery operated and go more for blocks, musical instruments, coloring, and other types of activities. BUTTTTT….most days we take a break and cuddle and watch a movie. She definitely has her screen time, but I try to always put play above that. She’s starting to understand pretend play a little more and has started loving on her baby dolls and already loves her little coffee maker toy set she got at one of our Christmas’. She copies me and makes whatever noise I make when I pour the coffee or do whatever, and will even go off by herself and get it out and play. It is absolutely adorable. But when she starts getting into it more, you better believe we will be playing house whenever possible.
To Work Hard and Follow Their Heart
Ever since junior high, I have always had some sort of job. And once I could drive, I usually held at least a couple jobs at once while doing sports and taking advanced classes. Then at 17 I started my own business. Work is something that I have always known. And DJ is the same way. He is the hardest worker I have ever met and does more for our family than I could ever put into words. He also has made it possible for me to live my dream: be a stay at home mom, run my photography business, and start this blog.
And I will work my tail off so that one day I can provide for our family and he can live his dream. I try to teach SJ little things right now about working hard, which hopefully will stick. She puts her dirty clothes in the hamper, she loves to take clothes from the washer and put them in the dryer and even knows how to start the dryer, if she has something that she is done with I walk with her to the garbage and she throws it away, if she wants a snack she helps me get it, she helps put her toys away, if she decides to throw the dog food or her Cheerios she has to help me clean it up, and she has to say please. We are still working on thank you, but hey she’s only 17 months old, I think she’s doing pretty good. I want her to know what it is to work hard. But I want her to follow her heart too. I never want my girls to be unhappy what they are doing. That’s why I am so incredibly thankful that DJ has made it possible for them to see me following my heart and doing what I love. Which is why I plan to work as hard as I possibly can to show them that they can too.
“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as though you were working for the Lord and not for people”
Show Them What a True Loving Marriage Looks Like
To Love and Put God First
“Those who come to me cannot be my disciples unless they love me more than they love father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, and themselves as well.”-Luke 14:26