Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up; and its faith, hope, and patience never fail.1 Corinthians 13: 4 – 7
A lot of changes happen in your marriage when you have a baby. You start focusing more on being Mom and Dad than you do on being Husband and Wife. There isn’t as much time to go out and be a couple again. You have to find a babysitter, you have to actually change out of yoga pants, and wash your hair. Ugh, who really wants to do that? Okay, every now and then I like doing that, but sometimes it is nice to be able to sit back and focus on us without having to go through that.
Along with not having time to go out and be a couple, it’s also hard to find the time and energy to actually work on being a couple. Part of me starting this blog is to document how I am trying to bring God into DJ and I’s marriage. Even though we met in church, God has never really been something we talk about. We don’t openly pray together, or talk about what we might be struggling with in our faith, and that has always been something that I really want to work on. But honestly, if it isn’t something you already openly talk about, it’s kind of awkward to bring up. I wanted to find a better way to bring God into our relationship.
Faith Night In Box
To help us on this journey, I decided we needed to give the Faith Night In Box a try. I had been looking at their Date Night In Box for awhile and had been dropping hints to DJ that I really wanted to try it, well he doesn’t exactly pick up on those hints, and I’ll write about our experience with that next week. But, The Faith Night In Box seemed to fit what I really wanted us to work on in our marriage. When I first got it, I was so excited! I opened it up and read through what we were going to be doing, and as DJ put it “we have to talk about our feelings.” Which he is NOT good at doing. Like at all. So if your husband is not the romantic, talk about his feelings, emotional type, you guys can still do this and help your marriage. And I promise, it isn’t as bad as he thinks it will be.
We started after we put SJ down to bed, we were able to sit down, open the box, and dive in to what the box was all about, and get to eat the yummy snack that was provided too. I think I might have eaten most of it…whoops…but they think of everything! They even provide a playlist that you can go on your phone and play (we live in the middle of nowhere and our internet didn’t seem to want to work that night so we had to go without for part of the night).
The box we received was based around the verses 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. Which is probably one of the most well known verses that talks about love and marriage. It was even one of our readings at our wedding. But what this made us do, was really look into the verses. It broke it down and gave us starter points to talk about. And not just about God, but our faults, what we need to work on, how we can help each other, and it really let me see a different side of my husband and get to know him. That awkward wall started coming down.
But then the cherry on top that DJ just LOVED, was we got to write a note to each other at the end based off what we had talked about. The cool part though, we used a glue pen and wrote it on watercolor paper, and then after it dried we used the watercolor pencils they provided to color it, and use the washcloths and cups provided to do the water part of the water color. We actually had to do this part about a week later because right about then SJ woke up and wasn’t having any part of falling back asleep. That’s the best part of these though, if you have to stop, it isn’t a big deal and you can pick right back up when you get time.
I cannot wait to do another month of the Faith Night In Box. Even while we are focusing on being Mom and Dad, we can still focus on being Husband and Wife. If you want to join us on this journey of bringing God into your marriage, definitely look into the Faith Night In Box here! Take a look around their site as well to see their other Night In Boxes, like their Date Night In Box (keep an eye out for my upcoming blog about that), the Mommy Night In Box, which I so totally need as well, and the Daddy Daughter Night In Box that I definitely wish SJ was old enough to do with her Daddy.
What ways do you and your spouse work on your relationship?
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